It seems a piece of bad advice to keep secrets from your partner but in many relationships, things aren’t quite that smooth. Every person would likely have a lot of history and detail in your past prior to meeting your partner. Hence there are some additional things that might have happened while the person has been with his/her current partner. As surprising as it may be, there are some things that are better left unsaid and kept a secret. But if telling these secrets will only make the person feel better but hurt their partner, they have to have a rethink. That being said, there are some things that you should keep away from your partner. Let us take a look below:
1.Your feelings about your partner’s family
Not liking or getting along with your partner’s family probably isn’t something that you should share with your partner, because (unless they tend to agree) it will likely only upset them. You don’t want to say or do anything that might damage your relationship with your partner based on how you personally feel about their family members.
2. Your body count
Chances are, even if your partner asks about your sexual past, they don’t want to know the extremely specific details about things (though if they ask, you can, of course, tell them). Perhaps they don’t like imagining you with your ex. Maybe they just don’t want that picture in their head.
3. Feelings for your ex
You likely still have some sort of feelings for exes, whether it is love, anger, resentment, or anything else. And often, it can be a combination of a number of things. Your partner likely doesn’t need to know about these kinds of things unless, again, it is affecting your current relationship.
4. Your traumatic experience
If explaining all of the details about a past trauma is something that is too difficult to do and the trauma is something that’s in your past, you might not want or feel the need to share every single detail with your partner.
5. What you dislike about your partner
It is normal that you will not love every single little thing about your partner, just like you probably don’t love every single little thing about yourself. If your partner is generally great and you can live with the smaller flaws, it can be better to keep silent, especially if you feel it will hurt his or her self-esteem. Experts advise that it is not worth creating feelings of insecurity for your partner in the name of total honesty.