Single ladies may be wondering why dating and finding the man of your dreams may seem out of reach. It is not so easy to spot the issues that may be keeping potential partners away from you. Sometimes it could just be the blunt refusal to accept them. However, here are some valid reasons why guys run away from single ladies:
1. You pressure for perfection too early
This does not come immediately, or right off the bat. And you need to realise this. . Some connections need to be worked on to grow into the love story you desire. Projecting an unrealistic desire for ‘perfect’ on a guy too early will push him away too early.
2. You postpone things you should focus on
When it comes to dating, you want a relationship, but don’t prioritise the things you should be doing to make yourself a better person, and therefore a better potential partner. Self-development is good but take it gradually.
3.You let the past upstage the present
Every now and then it makes sense to slow down, take a break, and get back into dating making sure you are ready.
4. You think you are available but aren’t really
We love to think we are emotionally available for the “one” at all times, but sometimes we have to be realistic about our own roadblocks. Borak describes the “reserve relationship pattern” as someone who is in a relationship, but keeps someone hovering around her as a backup plan in case plan A fails.
5. You are ‘bossy’
This implies you don’t want to be vulnerable and accept authority. Many times, a woman rarely wins when competing with a man over who is more in control. The single lady should be feminine, soft, and submissive.