Popular Yoruba movie actress, Iyabo Ojo has revealed on Instagram how the crash of her marriage affected her negatively. During an Instagram Live session on her page, she also talked about how she took the decision to lighten her skin as her ex-husband body-shamed her after she gave birth to their children.
According to her, she lacked self-confidence due to the abuse, and as a result, she started lightening her skin following the birth of her daughter.
She further disclosed that she battled depression after the marriage crashed, kept to herself and took to drinking and clubbing.
She said,
“Anytime I was alone in my room, I’d always say to myself Iyabo Ojo, you’ve failed, you are ugly, how can you have a child and you’d be this skinny, before you had a child you were thick…
“I felt like it was an ancestral curse for me to have a failed marriage like my mother. I would think about negative thoughts when I’m alone. That I’m ugly and nobody will choose me.
“Now you need to lighten up your skin and even if you have a tattoo you are still ugly because no one is going to marry you, no one is going to accept you.
Your mom had a failed marriage and you also have a failed marriage.”
Advising other women suffering from abusive marriages to leave, she talked about how women must come to terms with the reality that marriage is not a do or die affair as often preached in society.