Dear Dorothy,
I have been feeling an overwhelming fear that my boss might fire me. Every time I get an email or a request for a meeting, my heart races, and I assume the worst. I work hard, meet deadlines, and try to be a good team player, but I can’t shake the anxiety that I might be let go at any moment.
This fear is affecting my confidence and productivity. I find myself second-guessing everything I do and overworking just to prove my worth. I don’t know if this is all in my head or if there’s something I should be worried about. How do I deal with this constant dread?
-Whitney
Dear Whitney,
It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of unnecessary stress, and I completely understand why. The workplace can be unpredictable, and job security is a common concern for many. However, constantly living in fear of being fired isn’t healthy, and it could even affect your performance.
First, take a step back and assess whether your fear is based on actual warning signs or just self-doubt. Have there been any conversations, company-wide changes, or performance concerns raised by your boss? If not, you may be projecting your own insecurities.
Next, focus on what you can control. Keep delivering good work, communicate openly with your manager, and seek feedback. If you’re unsure where you stand, schedule a check-in with your boss to discuss your performance. This will not only give you clarity but also show initiative.
If anxiety continues to cloud your thinking, consider relaxation techniques like deep breathing or mindfulness exercises. Talking to a trusted colleague or mentor may also provide reassurance.
Finally, remind yourself that even if the worst happens, it isn’t the end of the road. Having a financial cushion and updating your CV can give you peace of mind. But until there’s actual cause for concern, try not to let fear hold you back.
You’ve got this.
Dorothy