Dear Dorothy,
I met my boyfriend at a friend’s birthday party. We got talking and hit it off immediately and spent the whole time at the party dancing and talking to each other. I thought he was “the one” the moment I met him.
We started dating and while visiting me one day a few months ago, I had to leave him in my flat to go pick up a few things in the supermarket.
I came back to find him in a very somber mood. He questioned me about things he could only know if he read my private diary – I keep a very personal diary, which is for my eyes only. His line of questioning made me question him as to why he was searching through my things in my absence. He wouldn’t admit he was snooping around, so I told him that I did not have to answer his questions as he was asking about things about my life, which can only be gleaned from reading my diary.
Finally, he confessed that he did go through my diary and was upset about my past relationships.
We got through that but things have been the same since then. He is a jealous person with low self-esteem, which makes him question why anyone would love him. He gets angry when guys talk to me and hate to see me around male company even if it is a mixed company with male and female colleagues.
He has hinted that he would like us to get married, I like him a great deal but Dorothy, I don’t know if I can cope with his jealousy and controlling nature.
What do you think I should do, please advise.
My Dear,
Every individual is entitled to his or her personal space. A jealous and controlling personality would not give you any space to be yourself.
People who are prone to jealousy are difficult to deal with or to please in a relationship. You will find yourself feeling that you are trying to meander and not step on eggshells around him and this will make your life difficult. I think it will be in your best interest to end this relationship and move on with your life.
Good luck.