Dear Dorothy,
I’m currently in my third year studying Mechanical Engineering at university, and I feel completely out of place. I chose the course because it seemed practical and respectable, and my family were very proud of me for getting in. But the truth is, I dread my lectures, struggle to stay motivated, and can’t picture myself working in this field after I graduate.
What I haven’t told anyone is that I’ve always wanted to pursue acting. It’s the only thing that genuinely excites me. I feel alive on stage and have taken part in a few small productions, which only confirmed how much I love it. Lately, I’ve been seriously considering dropping out to focus on acting full-time.
The problem is, I’m terrified. My family would be disappointed, and I worry they’ll think I’m being irresponsible or throwing away my future. There’s also the fear of failing and regretting such a big decision.
I feel stuck between living a life that feels safe but unfulfilling, and taking a risk on something I truly care about.
What should I do?
Yours sincerely,
Felicia
Dear Felicia,
You are standing at a crossroads many people encounter, though not everyone admits it: the moment when a “sensible” path no longer feels like your own.
First, let’s be clear about something: you are not foolish for wanting a life that excites you. Nor are you ungrateful for questioning a path that no longer fits. It takes honesty to admit that what once seemed right no longer does.
That said, big decisions deserve careful handling, not impulsive leaps.
Before you withdraw from your course, consider whether there is a middle ground. You are already in your third year, which means you are closer to finishing than starting. Completing your degree could offer you a safety net which is something steady to fall back on while you explore acting more seriously. Many actors begin their careers alongside other commitments; it is not an all-or-nothing choice.
At the same time, your passion for acting deserves proper attention. Could you enrol in acting classes, audition for more productions, or join a local theatre group while finishing your degree? This would allow you to test your commitment in a more structured, real-world way. Passion feels powerful, but building a career in the arts requires persistence, resilience, and a clear understanding of the industry.
As for your family, their likely reaction comes from concern, not necessarily a lack of belief in you. When you do speak to them, frame your decision thoughtfully. Show them that you have a plan, whether that means finishing your degree first, saving money, or setting milestones for your acting pursuits. People are more receptive when they see preparation rather than impulse.
Finally, ask yourself this: are you running towards acting with a clear plan, or simply away from engineering because it feels wrong? The difference matters.
You don’t have to silence your dream, but you also don’t have to abandon stability overnight. A thoughtful transition often serves both your ambition and your peace of mind.
You are allowed to want more from your life but give yourself the best possible chance of achieving it.
Yours,
Dorothy