It really makes me sad when I see how some men play with the emotions and the lives of the ladies they are “dating.” Why don’t you treat the lady in your life with the honesty she deserves in a relationship?
Let us examine this typical scenario. The lady you have told several times that you love and cannot do without her finally succumbs and falls head over heels in love with you. You can see she is now committed to the relationship body, heart and soul. Because of this she:
- Is happy with life because she is in love.
- Is happy when in your company.
- Thinks of you often when you are apart.
- Makes friends with your friends and relatives.
- Has your likes become hers.
- Adjusts her lifestyle to fit yours.
- Makes endless excuses for your shortcomings.
- Is always ready to accept your lame excuses and forgive you.
- Becomes a little bit jealous and protective because she now considers the two of you as a pair.
- Puts an end to any other romantic or potential romantic relationships in her life.
- Rejects offers for dates or even marriage proposals.
- Is loyal to you.
- Does not bother about your current financial status because she feels that together you can conquer the world and be successful.
- Commits to a future with you.
- Will show you to all her friends and relatives, because she’s proud of you.
Now, after all the foregoing and years of courtship, you turn around to tell her that it was all a game to you. That your heart is with someone else or
that she is now too old – in her early thirties – for you. After maybe five, six or seven years of courtship?! This my man is unconscionable! After making her love you wholeheartedly and committing to a future with you, you now want to leave her on the shelf and move on with your life with another lady? What a pity! What a shame!
After making her commit her life to you, and rejecting other possible suitors she may have chosen to settle down with because of her commitment, love and loyalty to you? You choose to ignore the fact that she has shown you to all her friends and relations and told them that you and her are together for life and it is just a matter of time to make it official. After all these, you are now ending the relationship, leaving her broken-hearted!
How would you feel if the reverse was the case and you committed wholeheartedly to a relationship and the girl let you down so badly? It has been known to happen to men too.
Please guys, let us deal honestly with the women we are in relationships with. Do not string them along and make them rue that they met you. Don’t make the girl you dated for so long regret that she ever set eyes on you, let alone love you so dearly. Don’t make her a laughing stock among her friends and family.
Knowing you guys as I do, you won’t find it funny at all if some man treated your beloved sister this way.
Do the right thing by the woman in your life!
Written by:
Christopher Onyewuchi.