Dear Dorothy,
I have worked in my current job for almost five years. It was once my dream role, and I genuinely enjoyed going to work. I learnt a lot, built wonderful relationships and felt valued.
Over the past year, things have changed. The workload has increased, growth opportunities seem to have disappeared, and I often feel overlooked despite giving my best. I wake up feeling anxious on Monday mornings and count down the days until Friday.
The problem is that I do not know if I am simply going through a difficult season or if it is time to move on. I worry that leaving would be a mistake, especially with the uncertainty in the job market. At the same time, I am afraid that staying will leave me feeling stuck and unhappy.
My family tells me to hold on because having a stable income is better than taking risks. Friends tell me life is too short to remain in a job that no longer brings me joy.
How do I know when it is really time to quit?
-Cynthia
Dear Cynthia,
First, know that you are not alone. Many people reach a point where they question whether they are outgrowing a role or simply feeling exhausted. It is not always easy to tell the difference.
Before handing in your resignation, ask yourself a few honest questions.
Are you unhappy because of temporary pressure, or has the dissatisfaction become your new normal? Every job comes with stressful periods, but if months have passed and nothing has improved despite your efforts, it may be a sign that the issue runs deeper.
Next, consider whether your current workplace still supports your personal and professional growth. A good employer does not simply pay your salary. They should also provide opportunities to learn, contribute and progress. If you no longer see a future there, it is worth paying attention to that feeling.
Also ask yourself whether you have tried to address the situation. Have you spoken to your manager about your concerns? Have you asked for new responsibilities, clearer expectations or support with your workload? Sometimes conversations create positive change. Sometimes they confirm that nothing is likely to improve.
Practical matters are equally important. Avoid resigning purely out of frustration if you have no financial plan. Build your savings where possible, update your CV, strengthen your professional network and begin exploring new opportunities before making a final decision.
Perhaps the most telling question is this. If another company offered you a similar salary tomorrow, would you leave without hesitation? If your answer is yes, your heart may already have made the decision.
Remember that leaving a job is not a sign of failure. Equally, staying is not a sign of weakness. The right choice is the one that protects both your livelihood and your wellbeing.
Do not quit because you had one bad week. Do not stay because you are afraid of change. Stay because the role still serves your goals. Leave because you have prepared wisely for your next chapter.
Sometimes the bravest decision is not walking away. Sometimes it is permitting yourself to seek a place where your skills are appreciated, your growth is encouraged, and your peace of mind is restored.
Wishing you clarity and courage,
Dorothy