Dear Dorothy,
I am beginning to feel uncomfortable at work because of the politics going on around me. Some of my colleagues appear friendly to my face but speak negatively about me behind my back. Others try to take credit for my contributions, while some seem determined to make themselves look good at my expense.
I went to work believing that hard work, honesty and dedication would speak for themselves. However, I am beginning to realise that relationships, personal interests and favouritism can sometimes matter more than competence.
I do not want to become manipulative or join the gossip just to fit in, but I am also worried that keeping to myself might make me an easy target. How can I navigate office politics without compromising my values or damaging my career?
-Farida
Dear Farida,
First, understand that you do not have to become like the people around you to succeed in your workplace. However, you must learn to navigate your work environment with wisdom, emotional intelligence and confidence.
Office politics is not always negative. Sometimes, it simply involves understanding workplace relationships, knowing how decisions are made and building professional connections. It becomes harmful when people use gossip, manipulation, intimidation or dishonesty to undermine others.
Here are some practical ways to handle it.
1. Do not participate in workplace gossip
When colleagues gather to discuss another employee, it can be tempting to join the conversation, especially when you want to feel accepted. However, remember that people who gossip with you may also gossip about you.
You do not need to confront everyone or act as though you are morally superior. Simply avoid contributing to conversations that could damage another person’s reputation. If necessary, politely change the subject or excuse yourself.
Protecting your peace sometimes means knowing when not to participate.
2. Let your work speak, but make your contributions visible
Hard work is important, but it is not always enough if nobody knows what you have accomplished. If a colleague regularly takes credit for your ideas, begin documenting your contributions.
Keep records of your assignments, proposals, emails and completed projects. When working with a team, communicate your progress clearly and ensure that the relevant people understand your role.
There is nothing wrong with taking ownership of your work. You can be humble without allowing others to erase your efforts.
3. Learn to set professional boundaries
Being friendly does not mean you must share every personal detail with your colleagues. You can be warm, approachable and cooperative without making everyone your confidant.
Be thoughtful about what you disclose, particularly in an environment where personal information may be used against you. Maintain respectful relationships, but understand that not every colleague needs access to your private life.
Boundaries are not signs of hostility. They are a way of protecting yourself while maintaining professionalism.
4. Address problems directly and calmly
If a colleague takes credit for your work or repeatedly undermines you, do not assume that silence will make the situation disappear.
Where appropriate, speak to the person privately and explain the issue without insults or accusations. For example, you could say, “I noticed that the proposal I developed was presented without acknowledging my contribution. In future, I would appreciate it if my role were clearly recognised.”
If the behaviour continues, document specific incidents and consider raising the matter with your manager or the appropriate human resources representative.
The aim is not to win an argument. It is to address the behaviour and protect your professional interests.
5. Build genuine professional relationships
You do not need to be everyone’s best friend, but building healthy relationships at work is important. Get to know colleagues across different departments, offer support where appropriate and communicate respectfully with people at every level.
Do not wait until you need a favour before establishing professional connections. Genuine relationships are built through consistency, trust and mutual respect.
Remember, networking is not about collecting people who can help you climb the career ladder. It is about building relationships that allow people to work together effectively.
6. Do not mistake every disagreement for an attack
While it is important to recognise unhealthy workplace behaviour, avoid interpreting every disagreement, criticism or decision you dislike as office politics.
Sometimes, a colleague may have a different opinion. A manager may reject your proposal for legitimate reasons. You may also receive feedback that is uncomfortable but necessary.
Learn to distinguish between constructive criticism and deliberate attempts to undermine you. This will help you respond wisely rather than emotionally.
7. Protect your mental health
A toxic work environment can leave you anxious, frustrated and constantly wondering who is on your side. Do not allow workplace drama to consume your life outside the office.
Make time for activities that help you relax, maintain relationships with people you trust and remind yourself that your professional identity is only one part of who you are.
If the environment becomes persistently hostile and your concerns are ignored, consider whether the workplace is still suitable for you. You can explore other opportunities while continuing to perform your duties professionally.
Do not allow office politics to turn you into someone you do not recognise.
Be observant, document your work, choose your relationships wisely and speak up when necessary. Above all, remember that professionalism does not require you to tolerate repeated disrespect.
Yours sincerely,
Dorothy