We are in an age where we basically live on the internet. Truthfully, most millennials are unaware of an existence before the digital age and what it was like not to have an email, a mobile phone, Instagram or Twitter.
These days, the picture of a couple at a restaurant peeking into their phones rather than being engrossed in the company of one another isn’t an unusual sight to see. This development is quite disturbing.
Although a number of people may be married or in committed relationships, they spend less time paying attention to their partners and building intimacy offline and more time with their so-called online friends.
But should this be the case?
I am of the opinion that if you notice your partner spending too much time on their phone, causing their attention to shift from you, you may have to find out what has stolen their attention. Could it be a person worth being concerned about?
Some may want to argue that having an online relationship when you’re already in a real-life committed one can’t be considered cheating. I strongly disagree with this claim. Cheating isn’t only a physical act; it is possible to cheat emotionally – which is more hurtful because the person who has your attention will invariably have your heart.
A partner carrying on with an online relationship while fully involved with someone else is cheating because when two people are involved, howbeit online, they aren’t limited to having basic, non-sexual communication. They may have phone sex which is a popular activity for couples in long distance relationships and despite the lack of physical contact, inappropriate actions will still be performed.
With the plethora of dating websites running, online dating has become more rampant. And just because your ‘cheating partner’ tells you that a physical meeting didn’t occur, doesn’t mean the truth isn’t minced. A meeting may eventually take place after their imagination and senses run amok with lewd thoughts.
So what should you do when your partner is engaged in these inappropriate acts?
I’d suggest that instead of making hasty decisions, think about your action, first and make a plan on how to confront him/her. We all have different ideas on how to deal or cope with betrayal and whatever you decide to do; I hope you are able to properly settle things.
Article By Oyekachi Dike