Relationships are about “give and take”. If you notice you are only at the receiving end, then you are using the other person. And if you are always the givers, you are being used. Relationship experts advise that both partners should not give their relationships 50-50, but 100-100. This implies that they are giving it their best shots to work. While it may be hard to move on from a relationship that once gave happiness, if you notice that you making all the effort, it is unwise to keep holding on. You need to do a reality check to know if you are the one making all the efforts to keep your relationship going. Find out how:
1. You are overly accommodating
If you are willing to do anything to see your partner but don’t get the same in return, the relationship is likely, not right for you. Are you willing to drop everything or just make tentative plans with others in case your partner says they will see you? In comparison, does your partner feel like they will see you when it’s convenient for them, but are still living their life as usual? This is not a balanced situation.
2. You constantly have to justify your relationship
It’s never a good sign if the important people in your life are always questioning your decision to stay in the relationship. You might even find that you have to make excuses for your partner. They might have concerns about how you are being treated, or they notice your partner not being around as much.
3. You are scared of breaking up
When you feel constantly afraid of a break up then something is wrong. You might find yourself forcing conversation with them rather than easily conversing, indicating that comfort and trust in the relationship has faded. You should feel secure in your relationship even when you have arguments, if this is not so you are probably trying too hard.
4. You always feel anxious and depressed
Feeling constant anxiety, sadness, or despair about the relationship is a sign that the dynamic between you and your partner isn’t working. “If you’re avoiding your partner, shutting down, or finding yourself constantly fighting, it may be time to seek counseling or talk to a more experienced person.
5. You are too selfless
In healthy relationships, it is important to be aware of your partner’s needs, but you also have needs of your own. If you are not honest about what those are, then you will ultimately become resentful about the one-sided nature of the relationship.