Dear Dorothy,
Trust you are well and safe. I have not been in a relationship for a while. It is hard finding a girl that meets my standards. My type of ladies are usually taken or out of the spinster market. I want to settle down but I have not found any lady that is the perfect match. The ones I see just want my money and are not career-driven and hardworking. They are looking for a bailout from their current status to a cheap and fast route to wealth. I am looking for a lady that is good in her character, doing well careerwise and at the home but I am yet to find her. Will I keep searching all my life?
Sincerely,
Dave
Hello Dave,
Trust you are also keeping well and safe. Reading your letter, I sense you have a scarcity mentality. One characteristic is having a negative mentality about women. You think your type of woman is scarce. Since you approach relationships with that mentality that is all you attract. We tend to attract what we focus on, Scarcity mentality shows in your behaviour too. You need to change your behaviour, don’t assume a ‘good’ woman is rare. Don’t compare neither should you feel bad for others that are settled. To change your scarcity mentality, have honest conversations with yourself. What do you want and what do have to give? Try looking at life with new lenses and focus on the positives and everything good will come. Also, be the kind of spouse you want to attract. I hope this helps.
Kind regards,
Dorothy